"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was greater than the risk it took to blossom."
- Anïas Nin
You carry the power to step into a more authentic and fulfilling life.
My name is Emily Beloof (she/her) and I help women and couples overcome stuck places to enter lives of greater joy, vitality, connection and alignment.
If you are reading this, something in you is ready. The life you are living is no longer working for you and you want change, but you don't know where to start and you don't want to do it alone. If you're like most people, you've already tried everything you know or you want to make your efforts efficient by having help. Maybe you have recently gone through a transition that has left you wondering who you are. Perhaps an old wound refuses to be silenced any longer. That's where I come in.
I can help you to identify where you are on the map of your life, why you keep ending up lost in the same dark and confusing places, and which roads you would like to take going forward. This requires a combination of looking back to see what you have come through, assessing where you are, and mapping your future route. I have experience treating: anxiety, depression, sexual and developmental trauma, boundaries, family relationships, sex and sexuality, attachment and bonding, cultural trauma, body image, body awareness, grief and loss, pregnancy and postpartum.
In my experience, this work is difficult to do alone. We have so many blind spots and often what we seek to heal is so tender that we need another person offering compassion and wisdom. In therapy, you have a guide and do not need to face any darkness alone. Together, we will gently explore experiences or wounds that have been left unhealed, unravel stories you have told yourself about who you "should" be, and help you tap into your courage and knowing.
I believe in the resiliency, bravery and creativity of every person. As a therapist, I get to see these qualities in action every day and I am humbled and grateful to do this work. I hold a masters degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Lewis and Clark in Portland, Oregon. I have specialty training in child development, trauma recovery, couple's therapy, and women's life transitions. My work is rooted in the knowledge that our place in our families, culture, and society deeply shapes and informs the challenges we face and inner strength we acquire.
"What is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?"
- Mary Oliver
"The quality of our relationships determines
the quality of our lives." - Esther Perel
You deserve to heal and thrive.
You can have a beautiful life.
What to Expect When You Work With Me
When you work with me, you can expect to learn strategies and explore issues in a way that serves your life. In a controlled setting, I will help you learn to recognize physiological and emotional cues from your body, integrate self-soothing practices, and investigate thought and behavior patterns. I have specialty training in the following therapy approaches: decolonization therapy, emotionally-focused therapy (EFT), somatic experiencing, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), feminist therapy, and narrative therapy, mindfulness thearpy (DBT), and trauma therapy.
Using a combination of these approaches, we will work to establish your best, most beautiful life by helping you explore blocks, heal past wounds, and create a vital life. Depending on your particular goal, this might involve:
identifying and replacing toxic narratives and beliefs
creating healthy relationship patterns
cultivating experiences that make you feel alive
listening for and expressing emotions that have gone unheard
exploring where the body is holding on to trauma
learning patterns of self-judgment and self-hate and tools to integrate of self-love and self-care
practicing how to tap into your intuition and inner compass/guide
exploring what values and beliefs you have inherited from family/culture/nation/etc and discerning your own true values
learning strategies to minimize suffering
correcting patterns of shame and self-doubt
ways of being that allow you to be more present in your relationships
communication techniques and how to set boundaries
The foundation of an excellent therapist/client relationship is a good match.
If you feel I could help you heal and thrive, please contact me to schedule a free consultation.
GLBTQI and BIPOC clients will be treated with dignity and respect.
I look forward to hearing from you!