"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was greater than the risk it took to blossom."
- Anïas Nin
You carry the power to step into a more authentic and fulfilling life.
My name is Emily Beloof (she/her) and I help women and couples overcome stuck places to enter lives of greater joy, vitality, connection and alignment.
If you are reading this, something in you desires change. The way you are living life is no longer working, but you don't know where to start and you don't want to do it alone. You know that if you have the right support, you will be able to bring to life the changes you desire. Maybe you have recently gone through a transition that has left you wondering who you are. Perhaps you are finally tired of putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own. Maybe an old wound refuses to be silenced any longer, or you simply cannot have that same fight with your partner one more time. This is where I come in.
I can help you to identify where you are on the map of your life, why you keep ending up lost in the same dark and confusing places, and which new roads you would like to take moving forward. This requires a combination of looking back to see what you have gone through in the past, assessing where you are presently, and mapping where you would like to go in the future. There is nothing I love more than guiding my clients through these processes. I specialize in anxiety, depression, sexual and developmental trauma, boundaries, communication issues, trauma in relationships, couples well-being, codependency, over-functioning, family relationships, sex and sexuality, attachment and bonding, cultural trauma, LGBTQI issues, racial trauma, body image, body awareness, grief and loss, intergenerational patterns, female hormonal balance, and pregnancy and postpartum.
In my experience, the brave work of deep healing is difficult to do alone. Many of us have blind spots and what we seek to heal is so tender that we need another person to offer safety and compassionate reflection. We need someone who will root for us even when we are at our worst and who believes in our ability to transform. As your therapist, I will act as your guide so you do not face the darkness alone. Together, we will gently explore experiences or wounds that have been left unhealed, unravel stories you have told yourself about who you "should" be, and help you tap into your innate courage and knowing.
I believe in the resiliency, bravery and creativity of every person. As a therapist, I get to see these qualities in action every day and I am humbled and grateful to do this work. I hold a masters degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Lewis and Clark in Portland, Oregon. I also have specialty training in systems of privilege and oppression, somatic therapy, child development, trauma recovery, couple's therapy, women's life transitions, and perinatal mental health. My work is rooted in the knowledge that our place in our families, culture, and society deeply shapes and informs the challenges we face and inner strength we acquire. If you are interested in finding out more, reach out! I am excited to support you on your journey towards a better life.
"What is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?"
- Mary Oliver
"The quality of our relationships determines
the quality of our lives." - Esther Perel
You deserve to heal and thrive.
You can have a beautiful life.
What to Expect When You Work With Me
When you work with me, you can expect to learn strategies and explore life challenges in a compassionate, direct, and trauma-informed way. In a controlled setting, I will help you learn to recognize physiological and emotional cues from your body, integrate self-soothing practices, and investigate thought and behavior patterns. We will talk about the forces that have shaped you, including family of origin and social/cultural messages, and help you identify the strengths in your adaptations and the patterns you desire to release. I have specialty training in decolonization therapy, emotionally-focused therapy (EFT), somatic experiencing, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), feminist therapy, and narrative therapy, mindfulness therapy (DBT), and trauma resolution.
Using a combination of these approaches, we will work to establish your best, most beautiful life by helping you explore blocks, heal past wounds, and center vitality and wellness. Depending on your particular goal, this might involve:
identifying and replacing toxic narratives and beliefs
creating healthy relationship patterns
cultivating experiences that make you feel alive
listening for and expressing emotions that have gone unheard
exploring where the body is holding trauma
identifying patterns of self-judgment and self-hate and developing tools to integrate of self-love and self-care
practicing how to tap into your intuition and inner knowing
exploring what values and beliefs you have inherited from family/culture/nation/etc and discerning your own true values
learning practical tools to minimize suffering, anxiety, and depression
transforming patterns of shame and self-doubt
cultivating ways of being that allow you to be more authentic and present in your relationships
learning healthy communication and boundary-setting techniques
The foundation of an excellent therapist/client relationship is a good match.
If you feel I could help you heal and thrive, please contact me to schedule a free consultation.
GLBTQI and BIPOC clients will be treated with dignity and respect.
I look forward to hearing from you!