Who do you work with?

I help women to transform inter-generational and relational trauma into wholeness and vitality, stay grounded through fertility challenges and new motherhood, and establish healthy boundaries and nourishing relationships. I work with adult women of all ages as they navigate difficult life transitions, heal traumas, and establish vital and healthy lives.

 

I guide couples to transform harmful patterns to loving gestures, learn to speak the truth, develop healthy patterns of relating, improve sex, adjust to new parenthood, and breathe life into their joint vision of life together. I work with couples who are married, unmarried, in open relationships, monogamous, childless, new parents, and experienced parents. Together, we unearth the negative patterns and experiences holding you back and establish habits and experiences that support your mutual flourishing.

 

What are you trained in?

I am trained in marriage and couples therapy, attachment theory, somatic experiencing, experiential therapy, emotionally-focused therapy, somatic trauma-resolution, and perinatal mental health. This means that I consider your challenges, strengths, and wounds as inextricably related to your experience in society and your family. Additionally, that your body remembers all of the experiences you have been through and will serve as a guide out of the darkness and into joy and light.

What is individual therapy like with you?

Therapy is always paced according to what works for you. We do not begin by jumping in the deep end - this would be shocking and likely feel unsafe. Instead, we begin by discussing what is causing you distress, the life you would like to be living, and establish a joint vision for how to get there. Sessions may include the following: conversations about what is on your heart, exploring relational wounds and patterns that you want to heal, mindful attention on what sensations are happening in your body, orientation to the present, learning grounding skills for trauma and anxiety, learning about what defines healthy relationships and good self-care, identifying self-destructive behavior, building spiritual identity and developing spiritual practices, identifying your personal strengths and resilience and building on what is already working and what is already amazing about you!

What is couple therapy like with you?

In couple therapy, the primary task is to identify and shift the destructive cycle of conflict you are stuck in. This cycle is created by reactions you have to your partner that are rooted in assumptions, fears, and prior relational wounds. In couple therapy, I hold space for you and your partner to express reactions and work through stuck places. Together, we identify what happens between you that leads to feelings of disconnection, isolation, criticism, defensiveness, hopelessness, grief, or despair. I integrate mindful awareness of internal experience to help identify and heal tender spots and active wounds that cause reactivity for you and your partner. Sessions may include the following: exploring family patterns of relating, identifying and healing attachment wounds, mapping the cycle of negative interaction, learning healthy and positive communication and listening skills, developing habits of healthy independence and connection, identifying and and working with trauma experiences, mindful attention to sensations happening in your body, learning grounding skills to manage relational distress, identifying your strengths and resilience as a couple and amplifying what is working well.

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